June 28, 2018
Millennials and Gen-Zers love an inspirational quote – something to set as their Facebook profile photo or print as a stick-on wall decal from a hippie with an Etsy shop. I love an inspiring piece of writing; words that make you want to tackle the day or something to rally behind. If you’ve spent enough time on Pinterest or in a stationery store, you’ve likely noticed there are a few inspirational quotes that may not make you feel inspired at all – they might just make you feel kind of… bad? Here are a few of my least favorite inspirational sayings.Don’t get me wrong. I love and admire Beyoncé. But comparing myself to The Queen will only end in complete disappointment. While it’s true that Beyoncé is a human (or so we’re told) and lives on the same earth as everyone reading this post, she was blessed with vocal talent beyond what most of us could dream. That talent and smart business and relationship decisions led to a career that allows for hundreds of employees. There’s a record label, entertainment company, clothing line and multiple fashion collaborations, not to mention the personal side of her life: she has a live-in chef and hired SIX nannies when the twins were born. So, between Beyoncé and her staff, she has more like 3,600-4,800 hours in a day.
Good vibes are cool. I consider myself a realist, others might call me a cynic, but I understand the sentiment here is something like, hey no negativity for a minute! But, we need to be allowed to talk about the crap: personal crap, work crap, political crap, literal dog crap you stepped in and dragged through the halls of your office. That’s what builds real relationships with people – the good stuff and the bad stuff. My friend Ali put it better than I ever could (and spent a lot more time thinking about it, editing it and getting it published), so you should read her thoughts about this phrase.
I’ve seen many versions of this one, some comparing Audrey to Marilyn Monroe, one comparing the Kardashians to Lucille Ball, all tearing down women rather than supporting them. I understand the premise – Audrey is the shining example of class in Hollywood, while the Kardashians are often considered the definition of trashy reality TV. It’s a step in the wrong direction and doesn’t belong in the social media feeds of women who preach individuality, feminism and empowerment.
I’m a little late to the game here, but as one of the most famous movie quotes of all time, and a prominent player in the inspirational quotes game, this one deserves a mention. If you’ve been in a healthy relationship, you’ve said you’re sorry. Love means saying you’re sorry A LOT. We’re humans, and sometimes we’re idiots – we accidentally do and say things that hurt the people we love. We work late, we forget to pack things that were specifically on the list of things to pack, we don’t call our moms as often as we should – and then we say sorry. Because we are sorry. When you love someone, and you hurt them, you say you’re sorry. It’s like a major part of being in love.